Marsha Linehan discusses Shame in the video above.;
“The evolutionary function for shame is that gets you to keep your mouth shut. It makes you hide your behaviour so that you don’t get kicked out of a community.
IF you’re going to get kicked out of a community because you tell them something, then shame is justified.
So – the trick is to keep your mouth shut.”
SHAME… you’ll find this at the core of many BPD patients…
Don’t mistake guilt with shame.
Guilt is when you MAKE a mistake.
Shame is when you ARE a mistake.